How do you know your son is gay

Gay children.. How early did you know?

Oh, to answer your other question.

when I realized he was likely gay I let the quasi-relationship with my father fade away, he never would possess accepted it. The same with his mother. I prepared my own mother & my ex in careful conversations over years so they would be proficient to accept him if or when he came out.

I worked with people at the college & counselors. I found him a GLBT teen support group in the area & drove him a couple of times. Then I drove back & picked him out w/out judgement when he was overwhelmed by the number of loud boisterous youth 10 minutes later. (my son has mild asperbers as well, he hasn't been social really & he's struggling with that too).

I let him perceive, without mincing words, that I love & support him no matter who he is. I talked to him about taking his time figuring out what he wanted & who he is, but let him realize I was there whenever he figured it out.

I never judged him for what appealed to him, in toys or in his style.

I did not allow any kind of discriminatory talk

As I relayed in When Your Child Is Gay: What You Need To Know (Sterling, ), I found out that my son was gay from a note with our son's identify entwined with another boy's, surrounded by a heart. I accidentally found that note in his room when I was cleaning.

I never questioned him about the heart I found on the sly. How would I verb brought it up? Suppose I was wrong? After all, he had a crush on a girl in his class.

I had suspected at times that he was gay. He only had girls to his thirteenth birthday party. He preferred gentler sports. He was always concerned about how he looked and followed fashion. Were these stereotypical thoughts from a straight mother? You bet, but it was ingrained through the culture's binary system and ideas about how males were "supposed to" behave.

As it turns out, our son didn't come out until he was 17, was on his own, and brought a boyfriend to visit. Had I asked him if he were gay when he was 13, he probably would have defensively said "No!" He had to function it out and work through his denial. I'm glad I muzzled myself.

Susan Berland, the mother o

Sexual Orientation

Adolescence is the dawn of sexual attraction. It happens due to the hormonal changes of puberty. These changes involve both the body and the mind — so just thinking about someone attractive can cause physical arousal.

These new feelings can be intense, confusing, sometimes even overwhelming. Teens are beginning to find what it means to be attracted romantically and physically to others. And recognizing one's sexual orientation is part of that process.

What Is Sexual Orientation?

The term sexual orientation refers to the gender (that is, male or female) to which a person is attracted. There are several types of sexual orientation that are commonly described:

  • Heterosexual (straight). People who are heterosexual are romantically and physically attracted to members of the opposite sex: males are attracted to females, and females are attracted to males. Heterosexuals are often called "straight."
  • Homosexual (gay or lesbian). People who are homosexual are romantically and physically attracted to people of the same sex: females are attracted to other fema

    Help! My Son is Gay

    by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director

    “So should I push my son towards women now?”  That’s a question I often get from fathers of young men who are struggling with same gender attractions. Dads are often devastated by the discovery of their son’s homosexuality.  But the answer to their son’s struggle is not to push him into the arms of a woman.  In truth, such a move could actually do more damage than good.
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