Married to a gay
One in 10 LGBT Americans Married to Same-Sex Spouse
Story Highlights
- % of LGBT adults in the U.S. are married to a same-sex spouse
- Number of same-sex marriages hold increased since
- Opposite-sex marriages, partnerships more common among bisexual adults
WASHINGTON, D.C. -- About one in 10 LGBT adults in the U.S. (%) are married to a same-sex spouse, with a slightly smaller proportion (%) living with a same-sex domestic partner. Half of LGBT adults hold never been married, while % are married to an opposite-sex spouse and % are either divorced or separated.
Overall, less than 1% of U.S. adults are married to a same-sex spouse. The greatest percentage of Americans, %, are married to an opposite-sex spouse.
| U.S. adults | LGBT adults | |
|---|---|---|
| % | % | |
| Married to opposite-sex spouse | ||
| Married to same-sex spouse | ||
| Living with opposite-sex domestic partner | ||
| Living with same-sex domestic partner | ||
| Single/Never married | ||
| Separated | ||
| Divorced | ||
| Widowed | ||
| No opinion |
These results are based on aggregated data from Gallup surveys, enc
A gay man and a straight woman got married. They utter it's not a 'lavender marriage' but founded on 'true pure love.'
Growing up gay and without examples of successful marriages in his family, Jacob Hoff didn't think he'd ever get married — let alone to a woman.
But in November last year, Hoff, 31, married his longtime girlfriend, Samantha Wynn Greenstone,
When Business Insider spoke to the LA-based couple in , they explained that they were in a "mixed-orientation" relationship, meaning that they have different sexual orientations. Hoff is a gay noun, and Greenstone is a straight woman.
The two musical theatre performers started off as best friends, but started dating in when Greenstone admitted that she had romantic feelings for Hoff and he realized he felt the same way.
They've now been together for eight years in a monogamous relationship, and decided to tie the knot last year.
BI caught up with them to ask about their wedding, future plans, and whether the way others see them has changed.
Hoff and Greenstone put their retain 'campy' stamp on wedding I’m a Straight Woman Who Married a Gay Man
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Dear Prudence,
I met my husband 13 years ago, and we’ve been together ever since. We fell deeply, madly in love with each other and have been married for nine wonderful years now. He’s patient, kind, gentle-hearted. He’s also always been honest about being gay and has never hidden it from me. Only one of our mutual friends knows this about my husband. Our son also knows, since we thought it would be best to remain open with him about it, so he never “found out” by surprise or from our mutual friend. Our son took the news very adequately and doesn’t care that his father was gay.
I’ve never told my family, or really any of my friends, as I think they’d all be judgmental. My siblings don’t like my husband, but that’s a diverse letter
The Gay Man in the Straight Marriage
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Rob had been referred by a former client of mine he&#;d met in an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. Just out of alcohol rehabilitation treatment, he&#;d begun attending AA meetings, where he&#;d shared parts of his story. He described a long struggle with his sexual orientation, growing up in a devoutly Roman Catholic family, where he learned that his sexual attraction
I’m a Straight Woman Who Married a Gay Man
To get advice from Prudie, submit your questions anonymously here. (Questions may be lightly edited for publication.) Unite the live chat every Monday at noon (and submit your comments) here, or call the Dear Prudence podcast voicemail at to hear your question answered on a future episode of the show.
Dear Prudence,
I met my husband 13 years ago, and we’ve been together ever since. We fell deeply, madly in love with each other and have been married for nine wonderful years now. He’s patient, kind, gentle-hearted. He’s also always been honest about being gay and has never hidden it from me. Only one of our mutual friends knows this about my husband. Our son also knows, since we thought it would be best to remain open with him about it, so he never “found out” by surprise or from our mutual friend. Our son took the news very adequately and doesn’t care that his father was gay.
I’ve never told my family, or really any of my friends, as I think they’d all be judgmental. My siblings don’t like my husband, but that’s a diverse letter
The Gay Man in the Straight Marriage
Rob rushed into his first session with me, gym bag on one shoulder, briefcase on the other, 10 minutes late and out of breath. He set his bags down, gently put his Blackberry on the table in front of him, and heaved himself onto the couch. He sighed and began: &#;Okay, I&#;m gay, I&#;m married, I have three kids, and I&#;m not getting divorced.&#; He&#;d shared some of this information with me in our phone conversation, but I was still struck by the sense of hopelessness in his tone. As he paused, awaiting my response, quite honestly, I was awaiting my response as successfully. I knew this was not Rob&#;s first experience in therapy and that a lot was riding on what I was about to say.
Rob had been referred by a former client of mine he&#;d met in an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. Just out of alcohol rehabilitation treatment, he&#;d begun attending AA meetings, where he&#;d shared parts of his story. He described a long struggle with his sexual orientation, growing up in a devoutly Roman Catholic family, where he learned that his sexual attraction